Jinsi khwahish (libido) kay lehaz sey bhi mian and biwi aik jaisey nahi hotey. Kisi mard mein jinsi khwahish kam hoti hai aur aurat mein ziyada aur kabhi iss ka ulat. Yani kabhi mian mein jinsi khwahish ziyada hoti hai aur kabhi biwi mein. Amooman mard ki jinsi khwahish aurat ki nisbat kuch ziyada aur shadeed hoti hai. Mukhtalif  researches sey yeh bhi pata chala hai kay mard ki jinsi khwahish aur dilchaspi 17 sey 19 saal ki umar mein uroj per hoti hai jabkay aurat ki jinsi urooj ki umar 35 sey 39 year hai. Mard aur aurat ki jinsi khwahish aur dilchaspi mein tabdeli aati rahti hai baaz waqt zehni  dabao (stress) aur ziyada masroofiyat ki wajah sey mard ki jinsi khwahish (libido) kam hojaati hai. Jab kay doosri taraf mian ghar sey bahir purkashish khawateen ko dekhta hai jis ki wajah sey usey ziyada jinsi stimulation ka saamna karnaa parta hai. Iss surat mein iss kay jinsi jazbaat foran bharak uthtai hain phir woh jinsi sukoon chahta hai. Issi liye Allah Ta'ala kay piyarey Nabi Hazrat Muhammad(P.B.U.H) nay farmaya hai " Tum mein sey kisi ko jab (koi doosri) aurat bhali mehsoos ho aur dil per chot parey to chahiyie kay apni biwi kay saath hum bister ho. Iss tadbeer sey ajnabi aurat ka asar dil sey jata rahey ga". (Muslim) Iss liye zaroori hai kay biwi aisi surat-e-haal mein mian kay saath ta'awwun karey warna gunah gar hogi.

Aik survey sey ma'aloom hua hai kay 2/3 khawateen mardon ki nisbat mubashrat ki kam khwahish rakhti hain. Kinsey kay survey kay mutabiq shadi kay shuru mein mian biwi sey ziyada mubashrat ki khwahish rakhta hai. lekin darmiyani umar (35-40 year) mein ulat yani iss umar mein aurat ziyada jinsi khwahish rakhti hai.